Wow, it really has been forever. I actually thought I may never come back on to this site and write... Maybe come back and read what I was mulling over 2 years ago. But here I am, down in the dumps, finding myself typing on this site this as a potential way to feel better and be able to smile without it taking all of my effort and energy left.
Another year, another break up. Sounds so boring. So depressing. So OVERDONE. People break up everyday... just get over it, right? Wrong. Every single breakup is the end of some sort of a relationship. If the relationship was abusive and detrimental to either person's health, then good riddance. But what if it exceeded the expectations of your idea of a fairytale relationship? It was so good, that you are willing to do change you'd never have expected yourself to change. Things like yourself.
We are all brought up with a certain set of ideas, belief systems and values. Moving beyond the nature v nurture debate, and simplifying the core of our being entirely, we can say that it is these values that ultimately define who we are. Whether they come from our genes or our environment, it makes you You, and me Me. You might believe that the whole world is created by God, humans came from Adam and Eve, evolution is bullshit, and your religion is the only one that sends people to heaven. And I might not care about religion, believe strongly in evolution, respect other religions simply because there are other people out there who follow it with such fervor, and that deserves respect. That would mean, but very plainly, that we are opposites right? Believe it or not, two people believing in the exact same belief systems as mentioned above, fell madly in love, and lost themselves in a world of their own. But, how is that even possible? How do two so drastically different individuals manage to find a place in their heart to love another that disbelieves everything you've grown up with?
It all began because the love stemmed from an appreciation of the outer human being, their qualities and their demeanor. When they first met, they didn't realize how different they were. And after a month of togetherness, the differences ceased to make an impact on them. Anything that came their way, they were willing to deal with. Because they meant too much to each other. How would they find anyone else to be like this with? To love this much?
The problem is, with the core being different, the outer qualities cease to matter. See, the two are so confusable. Our core values define what kind of people we become, if we are kind, caring, chivalrous, loving, romantic, etc. But two people who possess all the same qualities could have acquired them through completely different belief systems. You could be kind and charitable because it is a product of your religious upbringing, and I could be the same because it is a product of my having learnt to question the reason for being cruel and immoral. You and I have, in this case, come from different schools of thought. You come from a religious background, and I come from a philosophical background. I could try and consider your viewpoint, but the base of your beliefs is blind acceptance. It is what you have been taught since before you were born. And the very basis of my existence is questioning and reasoning, I do not know what it is like to accept without question.
It all boils down to the same thing. Religion managed to come in the way of two perfectly happy people having the best time of their lives together. Philosophy did too. Why can't just love be enough?
Another year, another break up. Sounds so boring. So depressing. So OVERDONE. People break up everyday... just get over it, right? Wrong. Every single breakup is the end of some sort of a relationship. If the relationship was abusive and detrimental to either person's health, then good riddance. But what if it exceeded the expectations of your idea of a fairytale relationship? It was so good, that you are willing to do change you'd never have expected yourself to change. Things like yourself.
We are all brought up with a certain set of ideas, belief systems and values. Moving beyond the nature v nurture debate, and simplifying the core of our being entirely, we can say that it is these values that ultimately define who we are. Whether they come from our genes or our environment, it makes you You, and me Me. You might believe that the whole world is created by God, humans came from Adam and Eve, evolution is bullshit, and your religion is the only one that sends people to heaven. And I might not care about religion, believe strongly in evolution, respect other religions simply because there are other people out there who follow it with such fervor, and that deserves respect. That would mean, but very plainly, that we are opposites right? Believe it or not, two people believing in the exact same belief systems as mentioned above, fell madly in love, and lost themselves in a world of their own. But, how is that even possible? How do two so drastically different individuals manage to find a place in their heart to love another that disbelieves everything you've grown up with?
It all began because the love stemmed from an appreciation of the outer human being, their qualities and their demeanor. When they first met, they didn't realize how different they were. And after a month of togetherness, the differences ceased to make an impact on them. Anything that came their way, they were willing to deal with. Because they meant too much to each other. How would they find anyone else to be like this with? To love this much?
The problem is, with the core being different, the outer qualities cease to matter. See, the two are so confusable. Our core values define what kind of people we become, if we are kind, caring, chivalrous, loving, romantic, etc. But two people who possess all the same qualities could have acquired them through completely different belief systems. You could be kind and charitable because it is a product of your religious upbringing, and I could be the same because it is a product of my having learnt to question the reason for being cruel and immoral. You and I have, in this case, come from different schools of thought. You come from a religious background, and I come from a philosophical background. I could try and consider your viewpoint, but the base of your beliefs is blind acceptance. It is what you have been taught since before you were born. And the very basis of my existence is questioning and reasoning, I do not know what it is like to accept without question.
It all boils down to the same thing. Religion managed to come in the way of two perfectly happy people having the best time of their lives together. Philosophy did too. Why can't just love be enough?
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